Our inflated self image takes a lot to keep up and to manage. Real confidence has humility and isn't based on our own importance. We accept ourself as we are -- from that we can make progress towards a more happier self. This extract is taken from a teaching given by Gen Kelsang Norbu at KMC North Carolina, US and is based on the book The New Eight Steps to Happiness by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso