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What does it look like to love someone through mental health challenges while navigating your own vulnerabilities? 

Dare Dairo, an advocate and polio survivor, opens his heart to share the beautiful complexity of his marriage to a woman thriving with bipolar disorder.

Growing up shielded from stigma, Dare's childhood was marked not by limitation but by inclusion—jumping fences with friends and competing over who read more James Hadley Chase novels. 

This foundation shaped his approach to disability advocacy and ultimately, his understanding of love. When he met his future wife, he boldly declared she looked like someone who would be the mother of his children. Neither knew then how their relationship would become a masterclass in emotional fluency and mutual support.

The conversation travels through their journey of discovery when his wife experienced her first bipolar episode after a neighbourhood dispute. Rather than retreating, he leaned into understanding—learning trigger points, maintaining consistent communication despite living separately, and rejecting the harmful notion that love blessed by God should be free from challenges. "Perfection is not part of the mix in love," he shares, likening their relationship to different combustion rates: "I burn like diesel, she burns like petrol."

This episode offers profound insights for anyone in a relationship touched by mental health challenges: the importance of support networks, balancing spirituality with medical intervention, and finding strength in shared vulnerability. As tunmise beautifully reflects, "What if the most generous thing you could ever do is let someone see your scars and still stay open?"

Whether you're supporting a loved one or seeking understanding for your own journey, this conversation reminds us that thriving isn't about being flawless—it's about choosing each other, imperfections and all, every single day.

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