REAL self-care isn't about false eyelashes, manicures, bubble baths, or lavish treats although that's what seems to get attention on social media. 

But what's REALLY self-care? And how can we, as mothers, set a positive example for our children to love themselves?

“Self-care is calming the nervous system, not just meaningless activities.” - Lavinia at Quantum Body Wellness

I’ve been thinking a lot about making time for self-care in our hectic schedules. No, I don’t mean going out and getting my nails or hair done; rather, I’m referring to self-care that actually enhances our quality of life and serves as a constant reminder of the importance of the contribution each of us makes to the world.

Self-care is often thrown around loosely when someone is pampering themselves, simply for the envious attention they’ll get from their followers, but that they are stretching the budget to afford. 

Society or the patriarchy, however you want to spin it, has trained us to believe that self-care is embedded in looking and feeling beautiful. Facials, manicures, pedicures, and highlights are touted as self-care all over social media. 

But what happens when that type of “self-care” simply perpetuates being over budget and feeling like our natural nails/hair/skin are something to be improved? Those fresh tips might feel fancy for a week and garner compliments, but what happens when that feeling fades? You’re still stuck with the credit card bill.

It all comes down to what image you’re trying to uphold or prove and why. 

What lie are you perpetuating through those actions in order to fill the void and maintain the image? These are the questions you need to ask yourself when you’re in an attempt to have real self-care. 

Have you ever felt guilty about taking a day for self-care? Because if you feel bad afterward, it’s not real self-care.

True self-care and abundance are aligned - they’re both of your own definition and when you practice self-care that’s true to you. Stay tuned to find out what self-care means to me and how this level of abundance can trickle down to your family. 

Self-care is about enhancing your own well-being and the well-being of others you care about for the rest of your life. Guilt-free self-care includes: saving for retirement, working out, meal planning, getting a massage, cleaning the house, hanging out with friends, practicing yoga, talking to a therapist, and even hiring help. You’re probably wondering how on earth these activities qualify as self-care. Using any of these techniques can help you relax and focus your mind.

In this episode, listen for:

• The coping mechanisms we may use for self-care and avoid facing our true feelings
• My journey through self-care and how it has affected myself and my family
• A decluttered space equals a clearer mind

In this episode, you’ll also hear:

[12:51] If it's something that will result in any measure of guilt, it's not true self-care

[22:51] Dropping the excuse that we don't have the time

[32:08] Inadvertently, we project our innermost feelings and thoughts onto others

 

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